Family Connection October 9, 2017

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On Sunday, I identified three key strategies for families who want to win at home. I shared that winning families are: Relationally Invested, Emotionally Involved and Spiritually Intentional.

  1. Relationally Invested-Engage in activities that build friendship, love, trust and respect.
     
    Developing healthy family relationships isn’t something that will happen by accident. Relationships grow and blossom with the investment of time. We want our kids to respect us, but respect is earned. It is never automatic, not even for parents. It is earned as kids know we love them and value our relationship with them. When kids know you value time with them, they will grow in respect for you.

    Here are a few verses to consider: Ecclesiastes 9:9 “Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love . . .” Husbands and wives, enjoy spending time together! If you are always going on separate vacations, and spending your weekends and down time apart, and you are leading separate lives, you aren’t following Scriptural principles for your relationship, and you are missing out on some of the best parts of life.

    Psalm 127:3 “Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.” If you have children, you have received a blessing that is to be cherished. Children are not a burden. They are a blessing. Enjoy time with them when and while you can.

    Not only will you create strong family bonds by enjoying life together, but you will also develop love and mutual respect by serving together as a family unit. One of our jobs as parents is to teach kids that they aren’t the center of the universe. Neither are we. Nor is it just about our own family. Just as God has a mission for His church to accomplish, I believe He also has a mission for your family to accomplish. We are to teach our kids not only to know the Lord and love the Lord and worship the Lord, but we are to teach them to serve the Lord as well.

  2. Emotionally Involved-Empathize to seek to understand each other better.
     
    You cannot be emotionally disengaged at home and create a winning environment. Without proper emotional involvement, you won’t have understanding and without understanding you won’t have healthy communication and without healthy communication the wheels will fall off of your family life. In order for us to improve our emotional connectivity and emotional health as a family we need to listen well, support well, and build each other up.

    Families are teams. Teams have to communicate if there is going to be an end zone victory. Not everyone can talk at once. Not just one person can dominate the conversation. Those who are struggling need to be heard. Those who are confused need to talk things through. Those who need to be validated need someone to listen to them. As parents, we want our kids to listen to us and be guided by what we say, but are we also taking time to listen to them? James 1:19 tells us to be quick to listen . . . And we don’t always have to listen in order to respond or to offer advice. Sometimes we just need to listen and allow our family members to express their feelings as they state their frustrations and struggles.

    One reason God created marriage was because it wasn’t good for Adam to do life on his own. He needed someone to help him not only in work, but to help him live well, to support him, to build him up, to bless him when life would become difficult. God has placed us in families not only so we can have a sense of identity and belonging, but so that we can support and bless one another through life’s journey. If you are married you don’t have the right to just go to work and check out at home. You have made the decision to join your life with someone else, and if you have children you have created lives for which you are responsible to train, shape, and support. It is a whole lot easier to become one flesh physically than it is to live one shared life emotionally and spiritually, but God has called us to the latter. A godly and spiritual union goes way beyond a physical act.

  3. Spiritually Intentional-Exhibit Christ as your family’s priority.

    Dad and Mom, I know there are no guarantees that what you teach and model will be embraced 100% down the road by your kids, but I do know if you don’t model a relationship with Christ as your priority and as a priority for your family, your children will be less likely to choose that for themselves. Your first and foremost responsibility is to “train your children up in the way they should go” spiritually (Proverbs 22:6). All of our kids spend a lot of hours at the gym, on the track, on the court, in the studio, at the music lesson, and on the field. They spend a lot of time in school and doing homework. We permit friend time and other social opportunities. How are we making spiritual training an intentional part of our family life?

    In addition to what takes place at church, there need to be some moments of worship, some prayer time, some Bible verse discussion, some Christ-centered conversations happening in your home. Look at what Paul said to Timothy about Timothy’s own spiritual upbringing: 2 Timothy 3:14-15 14 But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, 15 and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.

    Where did Timothy learn the Scriptures from his infancy? He learned them at home from his mother and grandmother (II Timothy 1:5).

    Winning at home won’t happen by osmosis or as a result of a good intention. It can happen as we are relationally invested, emotionally involved and spiritually intentional. Church, let’s do everything in our power and authority to win at home.
    Pastor Melissa

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